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For a Documentary Photography Project I interviewed 12 different couples on the same set of questions.  

Though a lot of new ideas and perspective were shared something really stuck out to me-- there's not just one trick to a good relationship. I came into this project pretty eggar to hear the ultimate 'secret', but to my excitement there wasn't just one answer there were SO many! Every couple handled conflict differently, loved different qualities in each other, struggled with different hardships, and had a completely different dynamics from one another. I think it's easy to look at other couples and easily envy their chemistry, success, or strengths. But that's kinda the beauty in it-- celebrating our differences!  No relationship is easy and the good the bad, the ups the downs are what make it completely exciting and unknown! There's no RIGHT way to do it. Isn't that great?? 

They had so many stories, advice, and thoughts I only wish I could post each entire interview! But alas for times sake here are some quick snid bits. Enjoy. 

 Lyn & Pat Newman  "Any embarrassing stories about him?"   "There's the one: I had a red bathing suit on and I was swimming around. He came over and gave me a pinch-- but it wasn't me, it was another girl in a red bathing suit." 

Lyn & Pat Newman

"Any embarrassing stories about him?"

 "There's the one: I had a red bathing suit on and I was swimming around. He came over and gave me a pinch-- but it wasn't me, it was another girl in a red bathing suit." 

 Michael & Maude  "What's the hardest thing about being a couple?"  "Providing for one another-- Emotionally, bringing energy to the table, or money. It can be hard to be excited about each other's projects instead of being drained at time. But it's also the best thing that brings the most enjoyment-- being excited for someone else." 

Michael & Maude

"What's the hardest thing about being a couple?"

"Providing for one another-- Emotionally, bringing energy to the table, or money. It can be hard to be excited about each other's projects instead of being drained at time. But it's also the best thing that brings the most enjoyment-- being excited for someone else." 

 Jordan & Daniel  "Do you ever fight?"  "Hardly ever do we fight. The thing is, in a gay relationship you really can find someone you are extremely compatible with because there is not gender difference. We are both very logical people, we don't make choices based off emotion so we communicate really well."

Jordan & Daniel

"Do you ever fight?"

"Hardly ever do we fight. The thing is, in a gay relationship you really can find someone you are extremely compatible with because there is not gender difference. We are both very logical people, we don't make choices based off emotion so we communicate really well."

 Soren & Darla  "Did you seek him out?"   "I noticed her in the hallways. She didn't even know I existed. I had to DM her on Twitter." 

Soren & Darla

"Did you seek him out?" 

"I noticed her in the hallways. She didn't even know I existed. I had to DM her on Twitter." 

 Eric & Whitney  "What's the hardest thing about being married?"  " I would say that we both have pretty strong characters-- strong wills, both fairly convinced we're right. It's learning to see something from another person's perspective; it's different not wrong and it has equal value. Then you can find middle ground." 

Eric & Whitney

"What's the hardest thing about being married?"

" I would say that we both have pretty strong characters-- strong wills, both fairly convinced we're right. It's learning to see something from another person's perspective; it's different not wrong and it has equal value. Then you can find middle ground." 

 Patrick & Sue  "What made your relationship work?"   "We were quite a bit older and had a lot of security in that. I see young couples struggle with finances which can create major conflict, they sometimes don't realize their parents had to work for 25+ years to get where they are at now. I mean she was the chief nurse in American Fork at the hospital. She was the head nurse for the state of Utah, the highest ranking woman at the time as a full colonel. So, she just obtained very high levels in whatever she chose to do. It's nice to with someone who's so on top of their game!"

Patrick & Sue

"What made your relationship work?" 

"We were quite a bit older and had a lot of security in that. I see young couples struggle with finances which can create major conflict, they sometimes don't realize their parents had to work for 25+ years to get where they are at now. I mean she was the chief nurse in American Fork at the hospital. She was the head nurse for the state of Utah, the highest ranking woman at the time as a full colonel. So, she just obtained very high levels in whatever she chose to do. It's nice to with someone who's so on top of their game!"

 John & MariAnn   "Any memorable moments in parenthood?"  "Our son was 11 years old and I was ready to spank him, and so I did. He said 'Dad, it doesn't do any good.' So from then on we never did. We learned you have to get through to them in another way." 

John & MariAnn 

"Any memorable moments in parenthood?"

"Our son was 11 years old and I was ready to spank him, and so I did. He said 'Dad, it doesn't do any good.' So from then on we never did. We learned you have to get through to them in another way." 

 Daryl & Mary   "What's your favorite quality in her?"   " I love her creativity. I mean the kinds of links she makes-- connections between objects and words. There's this deep reservoir of her ability to see possible uses, functions, forms. I think most of us look at something and we see it for what it is-- what it was intended for. She converts that and changes it. It's something I have a great appreciation for. It's something that's not appreciated often in our culture." 

Daryl & Mary 

"What's your favorite quality in her?" 

" I love her creativity. I mean the kinds of links she makes-- connections between objects and words. There's this deep reservoir of her ability to see possible uses, functions, forms. I think most of us look at something and we see it for what it is-- what it was intended for. She converts that and changes it. It's something I have a great appreciation for. It's something that's not appreciated often in our culture." 

 Taylor & Olivia   "What's the hardest problem that comes up in your relationship?"   "Splitting family time. It's stressful knowing that one of our families is anxiously missing us. Sometimes we have to choose, it's almost impossible to split time 50%." 

Taylor & Olivia 

"What's the hardest problem that comes up in your relationship?" 

"Splitting family time. It's stressful knowing that one of our families is anxiously missing us. Sometimes we have to choose, it's almost impossible to split time 50%." 

 Nathan & Jim   "What was the hardest thing in starting out your relationship?"  "We had to figure out how to be happy together-- to let go. I don't worry about the things that he's really good at and he doesn't worry about the stuff that I take care of. You might not think that what you really need is what you want, and that's how it worked out from my perspective. He wasn't my type, but he was exactly what I needed." 

Nathan & Jim 

"What was the hardest thing in starting out your relationship?"

"We had to figure out how to be happy together-- to let go. I don't worry about the things that he's really good at and he doesn't worry about the stuff that I take care of. You might not think that what you really need is what you want, and that's how it worked out from my perspective. He wasn't my type, but he was exactly what I needed." 

 Willie & Pam   "Who pursued who?"   "This one time I was on a blind date, it was absolutely horrible, and I saw him and went over and said, 'Hi, I don't know if you remember me, but would you please tell me your life story?' I just wanted to get away from my date so badly!" 

Willie & Pam 

"Who pursued who?" 

"This one time I was on a blind date, it was absolutely horrible, and I saw him and went over and said, 'Hi, I don't know if you remember me, but would you please tell me your life story?' I just wanted to get away from my date so badly!" 

 Jarrith & Emma   "What's the hardest thing about living together?"   "A lot of people think after they move in together that they will lose their individuality. It's not true, you don't have to think of the relationship as a unit. Both personalities bring balance-- they're suppose to compliment each other. You will always be two individuals." 

Jarrith & Emma 

"What's the hardest thing about living together?" 

"A lot of people think after they move in together that they will lose their individuality. It's not true, you don't have to think of the relationship as a unit. Both personalities bring balance-- they're suppose to compliment each other. You will always be two individuals."